Have you noticed when you get angry? When somebody or something has insulted you, hindered your way to a goal or violated a boundary, value or rule of yours. Anger is a valuable emotion because it acts as an alarm and motivates you to react. However, too angry reactions are costly: your body & relationships suffer, and you often give up early, due to the distress. For this reason, it is said that anger is the punishment you give to yourself for somebody else’s mistakes, Instead, helpful anger impels you to be assertive and avoid the extremes of aggressiveness or passiveness.

You can keep your anger at helpful levels as follows:

• Learn to tolerate mistakes & diversity; intolerance doesn’t make them disappear
• Avoid labels & generalizations, they intensify you anger and make things worse for you
• Realize that you may be missing something, if you are open you will assert yourself better.