In every collaboration people bring along their individualities: their values, goals, beliefs, issues. Balancing individualities with group processes is often something very difficult, and consequently teamwork is not easy. In this context, we often consume too much time and energy asking others to change, whereas a small move on our part could make a huge difference: you cannot change the people you collaborate with, but you can influence them to change.

When you facilitate collaboration, you exercise more influence and thus make your own life easier. Try the following: (1) Start with realistic expectations: at times you will not be treated as expected, don’t be surprised, (2) Remember: you are collaborating with humans, with their flaws, goals & perspectives, (3) Know your “buttons” and avoid having them pressed; learn how to avoid getting carried away by other people’s behaviors or provocations.